Expectations

The best things in life are unexpected - because there were no expectations. " - Eli Khamarov

Why do people keep having high expectations? I think expectations complicate and eventually ruin everything. If you think about it, why do we get flustered with jobs, careers, relationships, love, or people in general? It is because we expect something more that was not given. We give these high expectations for these things that we have no control over and when they don't go exactly the way we planned for we get disappointed.

How great would it be if we just lived everyday not expecting anything great, that way if something great does happen, it makes it that much better. Every good thing wouldn't be something we expected, it would be something that just happened. A great unexpected accomplishment, incident, or fortune and if something not so great happened it would just be a "huh oh well I didn't expect anything anyways" kind of thing. With careers, if it isn't exactly what we thought it would be, it would be ok because we didn't expect anything more. In relationships, if they didn't work out, we wouldn't end up broken because we never expected it to work out in the first place.

Some would call this line of thinking Pessimism, but is it really? If you just don't expect anything you're not really thinking negatively, you're just living in the moment. I think the main reason I get flustered with life or with relationships is because I put everyone on such a high pedestal. I expect the very best from the people around me because that is what I want to give them and when people don't live up to that expectation I get disappointed, hurt, heart broken, ect ect. In school, I always expect the test will be fair and the material will be doable, but surely enough it does not always work out that way. With every boyfriend I have, I always think they're not like "every other guy out there" and when things don't work out, I'm left with a pain in my chest. With every friend, I always think the best of them and think that they are not capable of doing wrong, and obviously in some situations I have encountered the very opposite.

I am tired of expecting the very best. The world should just expect nothing, and in the process gain everything.